I’ve been quiet because I’m not shopping much anymore. I’ve ditched 99% of the fashion and beauty blogs that I used to read. I’m no longer “lusting after” a piece of clothing or handbag, “cultivating a capsule,” or researching the latest “must-have” boots. I don’t know if I have all my wardrobe staples and I don’t have a plan of attack for spring shopping.
I’ve shed that skin.
I’m back to tees and cardigans. I shop when I need something. I haven’t shopped just for fun in months. Last week, I decided I wanted another pair of leggings, so I shopped for leggings. Last month, I was fed up with my ridiculous stash of trendy 3/4-lengh sleeved tops, so I shopped for proper winter attire. As I tried things on, I wasn’t wondering how I can jazz them up to look more put-together. I wasn’t thinking of blazers, jackets, and scarves. I just wanted comfort and a flattering fit, and I found it. Getting dressed is so much less complicated now. I’m no longer trying to style myself based on an impossible, photoshopped ideal.
Though I do still have fun when I shop! I really enjoy it, and easily spend a few hours without noticing the time pass (many apologies to my husband!). I’m just glad that it’s no longer my favorite pastime. Though I haven’t figured out how to use all my newfound time well.
Oh, and did I mention I adopted a cat?? She’s the best cat I can possibly imagine ever knowing. My boys adore her. We’re all doing very well.
What do you think accounts for the change? You make it sound easy. What shifted in your perspective?
It was a direct result of the discoveries I wrote about in my last two posts, and yes, it was that easy. Once I realized everything was staged and fake, it’s as though the scales fell off my eyes. I knew right away that I didn’t want to be fake, and I didn’t want to look perfectly put together. It even translated to makeup; I’d been trying to find the foundation that gave me flawless skin. I came close to it, but realized that I didn’t want to look like that all the time. It didn’t feel genuine. My husband says I look softer; my outfits no longer have angles and edges and flaps. Ha!
Hi Cristina,
Happy new year! So pleased to read this update. Really delighted for you. Sounds like you’ve well & truly popped that shopping addiction bubble – well done! It must feel so freeing! Hope you find a wonderful new non-shopping-related creative outlet for your new-found freetime.
Warmest wishes, Nikki.